Introduction
Ah, the holidays—days for gratitude, gravy, and that one family member who always brings up politics between bites of stuffing. You came for family and turkey, not a debate, right? Don’t worry, though. Here’s how to dodge drama and keep the holiday as warm and cozy as that extra slice of pie you swore you wouldn’t have (but totally did).
Find Common Ground—Even If It’s Just the Mashed Potatoes
Nothing brings people together like carbs. When someone starts steering into political waters, try redirecting:
“You know what we can all agree on? Aunt Carol’s mashed potatoes are basically a gift from the heavens. Please pass those over!”
If all else fails, mention the weather. Everyone loves talking about how unseasonably warm/cold it is while aggressively eating rolls.
Set a Politics-Free Zone
If you’re hosting, make it clear that the only debates allowed are over which pie is superior: pumpkin or pecan.
“Let’s keep the hot topics for next year’s election, okay? Today’s debate is whether turkey gravy or cranberry sauce is the real MVP.”
(Pro tip: It’s gravy. Always gravy.)
Laugh It Off
When Aunt Karen starts passionately arguing her point between bites of cranberry sauce, disarm the tension with a little levity:
“Wow, Aunt Karen, you should run for office! You’ve got the campaign speech down—now we just need a catchy slogan. How about, ‘More Pie, Fewer Problems’?”
The chuckle will lighten the mood, and who can argue with more pie? (Seriously, who?)\
Practice the Art of the Redirect
When things start to veer into murky waters, have a few neutral conversation starters ready:
- “So, who’s already started their holiday shopping?”
- “Is it just me, or did Grandma spike the punch again?”
- “Quick, someone remind me: Wasn’t there a year we almost set the turkey on fire?”
Family loves reminiscing about mildly disastrous holidays. It’s basically tradition.
Choose a Proactive Approach
Sometimes, the best way to avoid conflict is to steer the conversation before it even begins. Try introducing some fun table activities, like going around and sharing what everyone is thankful for—but with a twist: make it something funny, like “What’s the weirdest thing you’re thankful for this year?” Or, play a quick round of Two Truths and a Lie about holiday mishaps. If all else fails, throw out a lighthearted debate like “Is Die Hard really a Christmas movie?” These little distractions can keep the table buzzing with laughter instead of tension. Need some ideas? Download these Conversation Starters.
Take a Breather (Literally)
If things get too intense, it’s okay to take a time-out. Head to the kitchen and pretend you need to check on the pie (even if it’s already out of the oven). Bonus points if you sneak a bite while you’re at it.
Channel Your Inner Diplomat
Sometimes, all it takes to keep the peace is a neutral phrase like,
“That’s an interesting perspective.”
Translation: I’m not touching this conversation with a ten-foot pole, but you do you, cousin Linda.
Remember What Really Matters
At the end of the day, the holidays aren’t about politics—it’s about pretending to like your sibling’s weird casserole while silently hoping there’s a second dessert. Focus on the gratitude, the laughs, and the fact that at least you don’t have to wash all those dishes alone.
Conclusion:
The holidays are for family, fun, and food—not feuds. With a little humor, some strategic topic shifts, and maybe an extra glass of wine, you can keep things light and make it through the holiday unscathed. Besides, if things really go south, you’ll have something new to talk about at next year’s table!
